Forgiving Yourself

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

The hardest forgiveness is often not the forgiveness of others. It is the forgiveness of yourself.

We hold ourselves to a standard we would never apply to someone we love. We replay our mistakes with a precision and cruelty that we would call abusive if someone else did it to us. We sentence ourselves to years of self-punishment for things we did when we were younger, less wise, more afraid.

You were doing the best you could with what you knew at the time. This is not an excuse — it is a fact. If you had known better, you would have done better. The fact that you now know better is the evidence of your growth.

Forgiving yourself is not letting yourself off the hook. It is allowing yourself to move forward.

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