The Permission to Grieve Slowly

“Be patient where you sit in the dark. The dawn is coming.”

There is enormous pressure, in our culture, to grieve quickly. To be "back to normal" within a socially acceptable timeframe. To have moved on, moved forward, moved through.

But grief does not operate on a schedule. It does not respond to pressure. It moves at its own pace, which is often much slower than the world around us would prefer.

The pressure to grieve quickly is not kindness — it is discomfort. Other people's discomfort with your grief, which they manage by encouraging you to finish it.

You do not have to finish it on anyone else's timeline. Grief is not a project with a deadline. It is a process with its own wisdom. And that wisdom knows when it is done.

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