The Identity We Inherit

“Be melting snow. Wash yourself of yourself.”

We do not arrive in the world as blank slates. We arrive into families, cultures, histories, and stories that have been going on long before we were born. And we absorb these stories before we are old enough to question them.

The family's beliefs about money, about success, about what is possible, about what kind of people we are — these become our own beliefs before we have chosen them. The culture's stories about who matters, who belongs, what is worth wanting — these shape us before we have the capacity to examine them.

Part of growing up is the work of sorting through this inheritance. Deciding what to keep, what to question, what to gently set down. Not in rejection of where you came from, but in service of who you are actually becoming.

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