The Art of Repair

“Be a lamp, or a lifeboat, or a ladder. Help someone's soul heal.”

Every relationship, if it lasts long enough, will be damaged. Not because the people in it are bad, but because they are human — imperfect, sometimes selfish, sometimes afraid, sometimes wrong.

The question is not whether damage will occur. The question is whether the people in the relationship know how to repair it.

Repair requires three things: the willingness to acknowledge the harm, the willingness to take responsibility for your part in it, and the willingness to make a genuine effort to do differently.

The relationships that last are not the ones that never break. They are the ones where both people have learned the art of repair — where rupture is followed by reconnection, where damage is followed by healing, where the relationship is stronger for having survived the break.

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